Use Powerful Words

On the playground, I heard a mom saying to her son, “Be careful.” Then, as she was watching her daughter playing, she said to her daughter, “Be careful.” She continued to say “be careful” throughout the time we were at the playground. I wondered how being careful dictates how she lives her life.

When I’m at the playground with my kids, I encourage them to be both mindful and to take risks. When they’re going to jump off of something, I say things like, “Okay…just notice how high that is.” My intention is to teach them to consider the challenge and to decide for themselves how they’re going to handle it. My rule at the playground with my kids has always been that if you need an adult to help you, then you need to figure out how to do it on your own, ask another child for help, or wait until you’re big enough to do it on your own. (I believe that an adult helping can create a situation of “saving,” while another child helping creates a situation of teamwork.) This has taught them to take risks if they really want to do something. And it has also taught them that they need to tackle things that are within their range of abilities.

It’s particularly helpful to develop a vocabulary that supports you in stepping over challenges. These can become your new favorite buzzwords. They’ll actually trick your mind into believing that what seems like a challenge is no big deal. They might sound like:

• No problem.

• No worries.

• That’s nothing.

• It’s all good.

• Easy peasy (lemon squeezy).

• No biggie.

• That’s a cake walk.

• I’ve got this.

• No big deal.

• Let’s carry on.

• Easy breezy.

• That’s it?

• I can handle that.

• It’s taken care of.

• I’m so grateful for what I’m learning.

• Onward and upward.

Pick the words that resonate for you and create your own. Start saying these words in your head and out loud anytime you perceive even the tiniest obstacle. This becomes a habit, which becomes a mindset.


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