Create More Flow

October 24, 2017

One of the most common questions people ask me is, “How do I create more flow in my life Kara? Do you have an example of flow that happened in your life recently?”

Answer #1: I’ve been playing with flow for the last few years – testing different strategies to create more flow in my life and evaluating what works and what doesn’t. One of the biggest tips I can give is to balance being specific and clear with what you would like to attract in your life with being open and flexible to what the Universe puts in front of you.

Answer #2: So, yes. I can give an example. At the beginning of the year, I set out a goal to create a 7-10 day family vacation in December. I put this goal on my goal board. BUT, I didn’t specify the vacation location… I mean, I wanted to stay open to the possibility of WINNING a vacation!! As fall approached, my partner and I started discussing the idea of a family vacation. The challenge is that he teaches at a University this term, and his full-time work commitments are demanding before Christmas. The vacation prices were do-able for the time before Christmas (around my birthday), but not on the dates near Christmas when he will be available. Just as I was about to throw in the towel and accept that the vacation may not happen, my mom called me on Saturday morning. She said that she was going to Mexico in the first week of December, and invited me to come along and stay with her.

So there you go!!

I always say, “Balance flow with action. Be open to magical possibilities.”

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Put Yourself On the Hook

December 3, 2015

There is certainly an appeal to allowing emotions to take over—it gets us off the hook and makes someone or something besides us responsible. Most of us think that other people, events, and circumstances cause us to feel a certain way. For example, “If my boss wasn’t such a jerk, I’d be happy and productive at work.” Or “Ugh, it’s such a cold, cloudy day that I just feel yucky.” My kids are slowly learning about taking responsibility for their […]

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Acknowledge Your Own Flow

December 1, 2015

The more we acknowledge flow in our lives and the more we are grateful for the flow, the more space we create for flow to happen more often and in bigger ways. This practice of observing and appreciating flow is one that we can strengthen every day.  Here are some signs of flow: • You write on your to-do list that you need to contact someone, and a few hours later they initiate communication with you. • You decide you […]

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Don’t Feel, Just Do It

November 26, 2015

Stop expecting that things are going to be easy and that you’re going to feel like doing them. Get over the fact that you “feel like” doing particular tasks. Just because you don’t feel like it or because it’s not easy doesn’t mean that now is not the time to tackle the task. Successful people do things because the tasks need to be done, not because they feel like it. I don’t feel like wiping my child’s bum most days, […]

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Don’t Make Yourself Wrong

November 24, 2015

When we fail to meet our own benchmarks, standards, and expectations, we’re usually the first to put ourselves down. We’re our own worst critics. We chastise ourselves and then get into a funk because we make out like we’re stupid, lazy, worthless, etc. What stops us in moving forward in completing tasks is that we get down on ourselves for having failed at a portion of the task—an interim deadline, unsatisfactory work on a portion of the project, inability to […]

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Alice’s Story, an Excerpt

November 19, 2015

Alice met her husband, Andrew, at a college party, through her best friend in her med lab class. He was fun and gregarious. Alice was shy. She remembers Andrew coming up behind her in the kitchen at the party and giving her a kiss. She found out later that he decided in that moment that he was going to marry her.  Alice says that Andrew drank too much and that she was scared of him, but she loved how he […]

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Embrace Imperfection

November 17, 2015

There’s freedom in letting go of the notion that a task or project needs to be perfect. In making hamburgers one day, my son asked me if he was getting it perfect as he scooped the raw beef mixture onto the pan and shaped it into a patty. This was not a coincidence, as his teacher had just reported to me the previous day with a smile that everything at school was going “really well”—except that he seemed to want […]

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Get Off the Emotional Elephant

November 12, 2015

We can easily become consumed by our emotions. Rather than us controlling our emotions, they control us. It’s like we’re on an elephant ride, and the elephant is running absolutely wild. When was the last time you were on one of these emotional elephant rides? An hour ago? Yesterday? Last week? How often does it happen? Do you take mini emotional elephant rides or humungous ones? Here’s the most important question: would you like to take the reins and ride […]

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Amazon Bestseller

So thankful that the message of Chill is spreading

November 9, 2015

“Letting it flow is about balancing two things: having a path and an intention, and letting things unfold naturally.” I created a strong intention to write a bestselling book because I believed that the stories and thoughts I had to share would truly move people to transform their lives. “Bestselling” represents the action and persistence that went into writing and publishing the book, as well as the natural energy that continues to support the success of Chill.

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Chill Book Cover

Today is Book Launch Day!

October 26, 2015

Chill is about ending the pretending game that an okay life is good enough. It’s about getting out of our bubbles and believing that life is all about us. It’s about waking up to recognize that true happiness and love emerges out of contributing to the world around us. It’s about recognizing that creating an extraordinary life is entirely possible and absolutely probable with belief, intention, and action.

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